Peeks wrote: I think (hope!) one potential answer is to be Tenants in Common – with something like a 65:35 split, where I have 65% of the property, take on the mortgage and foot the bill for the annexe build.
From a financial point of view, PIL have net value of about £450k in the house within their estate (market value £900k less £450k mortgage).
Could you (and your wife) just be added to mortgage and start to make all payments (both principal and interest) thereby building up a beneficial interest in the house whose legal title would remain with PIL as a single property. Are you planning to pay cash to fund extension at say £250k? Would doing that not just increase your beneficial interest.
Under such a scenario is there an immediate need for PIL to gift/sell any of their beneficial interest to you? Obviously they could do so in the future as a part of their IHT/estate planning.
Just a thought ahead of your meeting with a professional specialist.